When I first became a school leader, I thought I could create belonging just by caring enough.
I was wrong.
I quickly realized that creating a culture of belonging in schools required more than good intentions. It demanded bravery, persistence, and a willingness to face resistance head-on.
I remember one particular meeting where the idea of inclusion—especially around queer students—sparked heated pushback.
The fear in the room was palpable: “What will parents say? Will this divide our community?”
For a moment, I hesitated. Would standing firm on belonging cost me the trust I worked so hard to build?
But I knew what was at stake. Students who didn’t feel safe. Teachers who felt unseen. A community struggling to embrace everyone’s humanity.
So, I leaned in. I centered the conversation on connection. I asked, “What would it mean for every student to feel they belong here?”
It wasn’t easy. But over time, the work paid off.
- Students who once felt invisible found their voice.
- Teachers felt empowered to support all students.
- The fear that once dominated was replaced with trust.
The lesson?
Courageous leadership isn’t about knowing all the answers. It’s about creating spaces where connection and trust can thrive, even in the face of resistance.
If you’re navigating how to move belonging work forward in a resistant environment, remember this: You’re not alone.
Start small. Build trust. Keep showing up.
